Doesn't really matter, Queer or Not

Congratulations are in order for Dr. Willy Munywoki Mutunga and Nancy Baraza on their appointment as Chief Justice and Deputy Chief Justice (of the Republic of Kenya) respectively. This post may be a little too late since a lot has been said about the vetting of the Chief Justice and Deputy Chief Justice and the issues that emerged therein.

One of the emerging issues, that proved to be a thorn in the flesh of many, especially the mainstream religious organizations and the conservatives was the issue of the sexuality of the two candidates. Dr. Willy Mutunga wears an ear stud and many people have questioned his moral standing and sexuality because of the stud. He is also going through his second divorce and many have said that he lacks the moral authority to be the head of the judiciary. Nancy Baraza on the other side, is writing a thesis about the rights of homosexuals in East Africa.  This has led many question and speculate about her sexuality. Being her divorcee did not make it any easier for her.

Well, as a legal practitioner and one on the down low, I do not have issues with one being gay or lesbian and that person being the head of the Judiciary. I am sympathetic to the rights of the sexual minorities, as a result of circumstances, but I do not take to the streets and shout about it. The issue of concern here is, whether the recently appointed head of the Judiciary will be upto to task. In my considered opinion, I think they are upto task. I will be keen to see how jurisprudence will be shaped with them at the helm of the Judiciary. Someone told me that courts will soon make rulings as to the unconstitutionality of sections 162, 163, 165 of the Penal Act (Code) now that we have Dr. Willy Mutunga and Nancy Baraza as the Chief Justice and Deputy Chief Justice respectively. If that will happen, it is only a matter of time. I am however convinced that such a ruling is way overdue especially on section 165 of the Penal Act (Code) which simply outlaws any sexual activity or intercourse between two males (same sex activity) whether in public or in private. The Bill of Rights in the Constitution of Kenya, under Article 31 provides inter alia that;

     

Every person has the right to privacy, which includes the right not to have-

• their person, home or property searched;
• their possessions seized;
• information relating to their family or private affairs unnecessarily required or revealed; or
• the privacy of their communications infringed.

In view of the above, section 165 of the Penal Act (Code) is thus rendered obsolete and therefore not Constitutional. It would be difficult to prove if two men had sex in private. Anyway, that is enough digression.

Let us see what Mutunga and Baraza will do for the people of Kenya who have for a long time suffered due to the culture of impunity, corruption and inefficiency of the Judiciary

Yours truly,

DA

I AM BACK

It has been a long time since I published on this my blog. A lot has happened since then. The last post was about mixing business with pleasure and one of my clients was in the picture. You can guess what happened. Well I decided to take the plunge and the results were fantastic. You see, I always have a strict policy when it comes to personal matters and professional matters. Its either one and not both. So I decided to mix but with very strict rules about how this was going to work. The representative of the investors I was working for happened to be a very mature guy who didn't need much of my rule. So we hit the road and went all the way, you know what I mean.

So after a couple of dinner and drink dates, not forgetting the sexcapades, we decided to call it quits. We called it quits not because he was being send to work in another coutry for a few months but because we didn't want to get emotionally attached. I don't see myself being in a 'relationship' with another man....not going to happen. I am the kind of guy who prefers to meet, hang out, bang and that's it. Love and relationships are for those who believe in love.

Enough of my escapades...... I will try to post more often now that my hands are a bit free... I tell you, it has been a hectic two  months.

Yours truly,

DA

Business and Pleasure

Working as an attorney enables you to meet and interact with many people. For the last two weeks, I have been working with these group of investors who are setting up business in the country. The process of establishing a company in Kenya is a lengthy one, so I have been in touch with one of them who is their representative.

This representative is a young and handsome guy, very technosavy and in touch with his metro-sexuality. He dresses in nice, crisp sharp and fitting suits. He is fine, I can say. 

So, of late, we  have meeting a lot more and at weird hours. I met him last evening at this posh restuarant in Upmarket Nairobi and he called again in the morning to confirm if we were still doing a few drinks tonight. I am not good at reading body language but I can tell that he is into me. I won't deny that I like him but I am not ready to mix business and pleasure. Or should I? Let me give him a call and see how it goes..... It's Friday and some company wouldn't be bad! 


Your truly,


DA

Suffering in Silence

Its that day of the week again, Friday! Everyone loves Fridays. Show me someone who does not and I might.....buy lunch or something! I don't know why I am feeling rich, or it's because the month is over? Enough of digression. So everyone loves Friday and so many things happen this day. Our Moslem brothers have their prayers this day; it's the last day of school for most school-going kids and guys; it's the last day of the week generally! It is the day people decide to have fun like they will never live again! Binge drinking becomes the order of the night. Then, of course, the endless sex all through till Sunday! Basically it is a day or rather night when people get to express their feeling more freely.

A Nairobi lady having fun

Revelers in a Nairobi Club having fun

However that  is the not the issue. I do empathize with our brothers who might not get to express themselves albeit in a sexual way like everyone will tonight. There are quite a number of men both straight and gay who suffer in silence because of their 'failure to launch' or 'failure to perform'. Makes sense? Ok, let me say it as it is! There are many guys who suffer from ED (Erectile Dysfunction) and or PE (Premature Ejaculation)! This does not give them room to have fun or express themselves as they would want to! I have heard of stories where a couple (both heterosexual and gay) have broken up because of failure to launch or failure to perform. If you find yourself in such a scenario where your man cannot perform, I think its best to find what makes him happy and what he likes. Talk about it and find ways of addressing it. Be supportive and even accompany him to the doctors. That way, the problem will be easily solved. All these, I am told, are curable. So one should not take that drastic step of breaking up with their partner because they can't perform!

Do have a nice weekend fellas and be safe! Remember; DO NOT DRINK AND DRIVE & ALWAYS USE PROTECTION! 

Yours truly, 

DA

Why Queer Relationships Fail

This has been an interesting week for me, both at work and personally. Work is always full of activities and meeting many interesting people. Everyday is a learning experience, as I have come to learn. I would have loved to share some of the interesting things I came across this week but professional code of conduct bars me from discussing such issues.

However, this week, I was meeting a client for a breakfast meeting in one of the coffee lounges in town. I made one observation that got me thinking about so many things. I noticed that there were very many mature men having breakfast in town. And I asked myself, I thought men leave their homes after having breakfast that has been prepared by their wives (or girlfriends) or by the house-help (of course under supervision by the lady of the house)? It hit me hard that a majority of marriages and of course heterosexual relationships fail the moment they take off!

What about queer relationships? I have had a couple queer friends and from the stories I have heard, our brothers and sisters in heterosexual relationships are in a better place! I know for sure, that over 85% of queer or gay relationships don't last for a year! I have heard of exceptional ones going for between 5 and 15 years! I don't know what the magic is; maybe they should share the trick with my gay brothers. One of the reasons I think gay relationships flop is because of the equality of both parties. I know people play different roles in bed but two men together can't work! All men consider themselves as equals and that they can do what the other can do. 'If my boyfriend is out for drinks with his friends, why can't I go out and hang out with my friends too'; that is how they think. Again, none of the partners is willing to be submissive like a woman submits to a husband in a heterosexual marriage or relationship. Homosexual relationships will only work when one partner realizes their position in the relationship and is willing to submit to and respect the other. 

And just as I was thinking about my relationship status, the client walked in..... 

Yours truly, 

DA

Numero Uno

I am the DA, not the District Attorney, but the Downlow Attorney. As the name suggests, I am an Attorney and on the down low. My life is full of interesting experiences both in legal career and down low aspects. I love what I do, defending the rights of people and finding justice where none exists. I also have a thing for guys! Damn, some brothers do drive me crazy! Being on the down low is not easy! And being an Attorney on the down low is not easier! 

This is my numero uno post and i'd like you to join me as I share with you stories of my life and its beauty.

Yours truly,

DA