Suffering in Silence

Its that day of the week again, Friday! Everyone loves Fridays. Show me someone who does not and I might.....buy lunch or something! I don't know why I am feeling rich, or it's because the month is over? Enough of digression. So everyone loves Friday and so many things happen this day. Our Moslem brothers have their prayers this day; it's the last day of school for most school-going kids and guys; it's the last day of the week generally! It is the day people decide to have fun like they will never live again! Binge drinking becomes the order of the night. Then, of course, the endless sex all through till Sunday! Basically it is a day or rather night when people get to express their feeling more freely.

A Nairobi lady having fun

Revelers in a Nairobi Club having fun

However that  is the not the issue. I do empathize with our brothers who might not get to express themselves albeit in a sexual way like everyone will tonight. There are quite a number of men both straight and gay who suffer in silence because of their 'failure to launch' or 'failure to perform'. Makes sense? Ok, let me say it as it is! There are many guys who suffer from ED (Erectile Dysfunction) and or PE (Premature Ejaculation)! This does not give them room to have fun or express themselves as they would want to! I have heard of stories where a couple (both heterosexual and gay) have broken up because of failure to launch or failure to perform. If you find yourself in such a scenario where your man cannot perform, I think its best to find what makes him happy and what he likes. Talk about it and find ways of addressing it. Be supportive and even accompany him to the doctors. That way, the problem will be easily solved. All these, I am told, are curable. So one should not take that drastic step of breaking up with their partner because they can't perform!

Do have a nice weekend fellas and be safe! Remember; DO NOT DRINK AND DRIVE & ALWAYS USE PROTECTION! 

Yours truly, 

DA

Why Queer Relationships Fail

This has been an interesting week for me, both at work and personally. Work is always full of activities and meeting many interesting people. Everyday is a learning experience, as I have come to learn. I would have loved to share some of the interesting things I came across this week but professional code of conduct bars me from discussing such issues.

However, this week, I was meeting a client for a breakfast meeting in one of the coffee lounges in town. I made one observation that got me thinking about so many things. I noticed that there were very many mature men having breakfast in town. And I asked myself, I thought men leave their homes after having breakfast that has been prepared by their wives (or girlfriends) or by the house-help (of course under supervision by the lady of the house)? It hit me hard that a majority of marriages and of course heterosexual relationships fail the moment they take off!

What about queer relationships? I have had a couple queer friends and from the stories I have heard, our brothers and sisters in heterosexual relationships are in a better place! I know for sure, that over 85% of queer or gay relationships don't last for a year! I have heard of exceptional ones going for between 5 and 15 years! I don't know what the magic is; maybe they should share the trick with my gay brothers. One of the reasons I think gay relationships flop is because of the equality of both parties. I know people play different roles in bed but two men together can't work! All men consider themselves as equals and that they can do what the other can do. 'If my boyfriend is out for drinks with his friends, why can't I go out and hang out with my friends too'; that is how they think. Again, none of the partners is willing to be submissive like a woman submits to a husband in a heterosexual marriage or relationship. Homosexual relationships will only work when one partner realizes their position in the relationship and is willing to submit to and respect the other. 

And just as I was thinking about my relationship status, the client walked in..... 

Yours truly, 

DA

Numero Uno

I am the DA, not the District Attorney, but the Downlow Attorney. As the name suggests, I am an Attorney and on the down low. My life is full of interesting experiences both in legal career and down low aspects. I love what I do, defending the rights of people and finding justice where none exists. I also have a thing for guys! Damn, some brothers do drive me crazy! Being on the down low is not easy! And being an Attorney on the down low is not easier! 

This is my numero uno post and i'd like you to join me as I share with you stories of my life and its beauty.

Yours truly,

DA