DL Code Continued

I haven't blogged since August! What a shame. Blame it on work, getting back with the girlfriend, partying hard, a too colourful social life etc.

It has been a good run I must admit but the highlight of it all is getting back with Kimberly and finally moving back in with her at the loft. The studio was tiny for my big ego. I know you are all tired of hearing about this Kimberly. Who else can I talk about because she is the only one worth giving me sleepless nights.....

I was to do the continuation of the DL code and damn, it's been a whole 5 months. You must be tired of waiting. I should write often.

Ok, let's do this

DL Code (Cont'd)

1. We guys on the downlow don't deal with emotions. Not male emotions. Girl emotions are way to much to handle. You can clearly see it from my previous posts about Kim. If you are lucky to be shagged by a dude on the DL, don't bother trying to find out why he didn't call the day after. He wasn't meant to call and he won't. Don't think he banged you because he liked you. He was horny and you were the only way out for him. If he needs another fix he will call. And he does it over and over again, don't think he loves you so don't pull those emotional stunts on him. Enjoy the sex while it lasts.
2. Dudes on the DL love themselves and their partners ( i.e committed girlfriends and wives). This means that we exercise a lot of caution. Unprotected sex is a no-no. Don't expect your DL guy to bareback like it is a common thing among the out gay community. We love ourselves and will never do anything to put ourselves and loved ones at risk. So don't expect to get it raw from a DL dude. 
3. We are smart, intelligent and have our lives on the right track. Look around and see. Most guys on the DL have serious and respectable careers and professions like law (that's me ;-) ), engineering, medicine, aviation, financial services, entrepreneurs et al. It is hard to come across a DL guy who doesn't have something serious going on in his life. I am not saying out gay people aren't serious people.... That is why we have most out people in fashion, interior design, media beauty etc. The reason is that most gay people are very colourful and creative. DL dudes are more analytical than creative. That's why it's hard to find effeminate men working as doctors, pilots etc .... These careers need people who have 'got it under control'. Not swinging their hands around the cockpit of Dreamliner or in a hospital theatre. I stand to be corrected on this one though :-) 

If you happen to bang a guy on the DL then you need to watch out for some of these things. This are just some of my observations. There could me out there. Feel free to share them.

Yours truly

DA

Down low code

Many of us are in this ship I call Mv Downlow. Aboard this vessel all you do with the very few like-minded guys is a private affair. It is like being on a cruise ship, on high seas away from the prying eyes on the main land. Any man on the down low knows what I am talking about. However there is an unwritten down low code that few have a clue about. Let me break it down for you.

First, this post is as a result of an encounter I had in the coastal city of Mombasa last week. We were down there for the Law Society of Kenya Annual Conference which was held in Diani. It is one those conferences that lawyers look forward to every year. It has been billed as a get away for senior and wealthy lawyers who take time off their busy schedules. Some fly their mistresses down to the coast for some little fun. If you have brushed shoulders with lawyers you must have noticed that we love living life to the fullest; eating it with a big spoon kind of thing. A story is told of a senior lawyer who got wasted during a past conference that he forgot his room number but could remember the room number where a female married colleague was lodging and he shamelessly stumbled all the way to her room. What went down in her room, I leave it for you to decide. So the Mombasa retreat provides the perfect play ground for those marauding lawyers who want to have some fun.

After the conference was over, I decided to cross over to the island to sample what the coastal city has to offer. Not that there is much to sample in Mombasa especially if you have been to most entertainment joints. Bella Vista was my destination. I like this joint for its VIP lounge on the ground floor and the eye candy that frequents the joint. Once in, I did the usual, found myself a nice spot and ordered scotch whiskey. As is usual, I scanned the lounge and noticed quite a number of good looking guys. Then I saw one of the young lawyers who was at the conference. I didn't pay much attention to him but kept on checking out cute guys. Thing is, I don't do this when I am with my girlfriend Kimberly, lest things go to the dogs. After enough 'feeding' on eye candy, I walked out to the washrooms. While walking out back to the lounge, I met this young lawyer and for a moment we locked eyes. Damn! I thought to myself. I ordered another shot of whiskey and noticed when he came back. Then the games started.... He's the kind of you want to bed even on the street. Any way.....things got interesting as the night progressed Do I have to break it down to you how it ended up?  

Anyway, back to the matter at hand, the DL code. Openly gay people are perplexed at how 'us' guys nail other guys and get laid. One thing about us is that we know how to play this game and we don't put ourselves out there. In fact, we don't exist. 

Part of the code is as follows;

1. We do not seek attention! Guys on down low do not 'advertise' themselves. Catch me dead in skinny jeans or pink tees, or a ring on my thumb or index finger! Hell no. We dress well fitting clothes but NEVER tight clothes. Tight clothes are a NO-NO! 
2. We communicate seamlessly. The moment a guy on the down low spots another, 'wireless' communication is initiated. We communicate using our eyes. It is not easy as it sounds but if you have done it you know what I am talking about. A guy on DL will not approach you and tease you like most gay guys do. We know and feel when there is something. Guys on the DL know that it will all end up in bed so they save themselves the agony of sweet talking and those sweet-nothings gays tell each other. Once I lock eyes with you and send a message, better be ready to play the game.
3. We do not hang out with gays! Period! It is as simple as that! We avoid hanging out with gay people for obvious reasons. 99% of guys on the DL are either married or in committed heterosexual relationships or are very important people in society. We have no time to go sit at Art Caffe with a bunch of queers listening to them whine about their crushes or boyfriends, or what clothes and shoes to buy next! I do not know how I would explain to my girlfriend if she bumped into me at the mall with a bunch of queens.

That's just part of the code, in the next post, I will continue with the list.

Let me have your comments on the code. 

Yours truly,

DA

COME BACK POST

Wow! The last time I did a post here was in September 2011! I can't be serious! Focus is needed here! Things have happened though, like a lot of water has drained into oceans from the rivers flowing through the plains from the mountains. A lot has happened! 

They say (I don't exactly who) that when a man goes quiet he is either going through some serious issues or has had been hit in the gonads! That is some painful shit, ask anyone who has been hit there or a cyclist who misses the pedal. If you ride you know what I mean.

Anyway, to cut the long story short, I decided to take a chill pill from life generally coz my girlfriend Kimberly and I were going through some shit sometime last year. Relationships are no joke, you know. A little misunderstanding led into a confrontation and later a fight, not the physical one but the bitter exchange of words kind of fight. I am one patient guy but when things get thick, I can emit some serious dragon flames. After the fight, I moved in with Dave, remember my work mate? He too was going through issues with the girlfriend and they broke up. Sad :-( 

I didn't stay for long at Dave's coz stuff happened between us and I noticed he started getting attached. Just to cool down and clear my mind I took up a six months residency in our South Africa office and returned mid June. Kimberly and I kept in touch and talked through our issues. I still kept the loft and paid for the rent I didn't move back in when I came but instead rented a small studio when I came back. We are working it out and soon I'll move in back with her, the studio is tiny!

So basically that is what has been happening and explains the hiatus from blogging. I am back though and promise more posts, more stuff on the DL!

Yours truly

DA